Setbacks are a pain. They are rarely things that you want to happen, but they can turn out to be quite helpful. My injury recovery has had quite a few setbacks lately. It feels a lot like the wheels are turning but the car is bogged. It’s incredibly challenging to stick with it and see it though. But what I’ve realised is that setbacks teach us what’s worth fighting for.
About 8.5 months ago I hurt my leg whilst I was training for what was supposed to be my first Half Marathon. Little did I know that it wasn’t a niggle, but a torn hamstring and calf. Two weeks later after trying to run on it again, I realised that I needed to see a Physiotherapist because there was something really wrong. What I didn’t realise is that it would uncover a hip injury/issue that I’ve been living with for a very long time.
Jump forward to today and we’re well on our way to healing it as best as possible and getting back to the running that I adore. But there have been a series of rolled ankles and plain bad luck that have left me asking if it’s all worth it. The answer, for me, is: hells yes!
They are setbacks and they hurt not only physically, but emotionally too. It doesn’t matter if it’s a rolled ankle for me or being passed over for a promotion for someone else. Setbacks suck. But they give us the opportunity to take a moment to reassess. To hit pause and look at the bigger picture and ask “is this really what I want right now?” and if the answer is yes, “am I willing to do what it takes to make it happen”.
The beauty is that the answer doesn’t have to be a “yes!”, it could be that you don’t really want what you thought you did, and that’s a blessing in disguise. Sure it will still hurt, but sometimes we get roadblocks for a reason. A way of giving us a chance to change our minds.
For me, I want my running back, and I will do what it takes to make that happen. If it means shifting and changing other things, or even just a willingness to stick with it, no matter the setbacks, I’m in. Would I love it if there were less tears? Yes, but sometimes things that mean a lot require effort.
Even though tough things seem like they’re the opposite of what a happy home is – or what it should be – I’m realising that it’s in making the tough decisions, that are the right decisions, that make for a happier home for me in the long run. Sometimes it really is a matter of seeing the forest for the trees. Running makes me happy and doing what I have to do now will serve me well for the future.
As a lovely friend said to me just the other day “you’re building your future success brick by brick”, and I think we can all do that. Brick by brick.
Have setbacks helped shape who you are today?