I took this past week off for a little brain recharge. You might not have noticed because I tried to keep the blog running as smoothly as possible, but I still managed some quality down time to really think about life and this blog and where (I am and) it is headed. Yes, that probably sounds a little like work, but I needed a little time to see the forest for the trees, and I think it was worth it.
In my bio I have myself listed as a “sometimes crazy adventurer”. It’s probably one of the best ways to describe me. I love an adventure, whether it be deciding to save $18,000 and move halfway across the world, or whether it’s to come right back home again and plant some roots for the first time. I throw myself into things. Full speed or nothing at all. When I know in my heart that I’m willing to do what it takes to make it happen, then it will happen and hard work is my friend. Crazy. Full speed. Determined.
I’ve been thinking about my dreams a lot this past week, and how, right now, many of them are intertwined with this blog. It’s where I get my energy and it’s helping me to carve out that future that I dream of. One that is full of adventures, laughter and making a difference to people in a non-pushy, kindhearted way. They may sound silly and simplistic, but they are at the heart of it all. While this blog may still be a baby at just 10 months old, I decided many months ago that I was going to put my heart into it and run like hell at those dreams. (I decided whilst sitting in a session at last years Problogger Training Event and I haven’t wanted to change my mind even once since. Surely, that’s a sign?)
While I was taking my work break I couldn’t help but watch this Tedx Talk from Jamie Tworkowski from To Write Love On Her Arms. A charity that speaks to my heart and does work that I feel I need to be a part of. It’s not a long talk, but there are just a couple of moments in it that stuck in my head. Jamie talks of his two friends who ask a different question to the standard “so, what do you do?”. They ask “what do you want?” and “what is your dream?”. I couldn’t help but to stop and really think about the difference these questions make and the answers you’ll get from the standard “what do you do?”
A lot of us “do” work we don’t love. We have jobs that pay the bills. There ain’t nothing wrong with that. But what we do to pay the bills might not be what we dream of or what we want. I dream of building a community of people who are able to embrace the imperfections of this life and make their homes a joyful place where laughter reigns and there’s room for memory making. I dream of having a little place of my own where I can grow and foster that joyful feeling for myself and the family that I hope to have. I dream of being able to help TWLOHA in a much bigger way than I can right now. But right now the work I do is hard to describe succinctly. I do what I can to get by. I try a lot of things that don’t work and a few that do. There’s a lot of leg work to do to build something worthwhile, and I’m willing to do what it takes to make that happen. I’m not complaining, it’s just the truth. It’s an adventure.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the first thing someone asked you, instead of “what do you do?” was “what’s your dream?”? Sure it would be off-putting at first, but I think it would also be liberating. That person wants to know an answer. They want you to speak about something you’re passionate about and let’s you light up. Whether you think you have a dream or not, everyone has something they’re passionate about. Something they can’t help but talk about with passion in their voice and a full heart. It could be how you educate your children, or your business dream. It could be that home and lifestyle change you’re quietly saving for. There’s a little spark in there and this person wants to know what it is. There’s magic in that.
The thing with passion and dreams and adventures is that not every day is easy. Some days are bloody hard. Some days you want to give up. It’s too hard. The mountain is too steep. That’s where people who ask you off-putting questions like “what is your dream?” come in. It’s your best friend, or your online friend who is trying to achieve similar things. It’s that person you feel safe enough to share the dream with, even before it’s ready to be judged by the world at large.
TWLOHA has a saying “people need other people” and this former island-of-one, couldn’t agree more. Some days what your dreams and adventures need is someone to help drag you up that mountain. To cheer you on from the sidelines. They are the ones who will pick you up and dust you off when things really suck and kick you in the bum when you need that too. It’s not about the number of them, it’s about them showing up when you need them. And it’s about you being that person for someone else too.
So here’s to crazy dreams and the adventures they bring and me asking you: what is your dream?
You can answer in the comments below, or email me if you’re not ready to share with the world. The offer is there if you’d like to answer. x D
P.S. This post was not in any way sponsored by TWLOHA. It’s just a charity that I have decided to support through this blog because the work they do is important to me.