Perfection and getting it right the first time every time is a theme that I see cropping up in my life. Maybe it’s something that’s a common part of yours too? There seems to be this need and sometimes even the want to use all the time we have as efficiently as possible so that the most can be made of every day. There are probably thousands of quotes on Pinterest telling us that time is not for wasting. But that just doesn’t really sit well with with my dreams of a life where laughter reigns and imperfection is welcomed. I want room to make mistakes without the pressure.
When everything has to be just right the first time round, there’s no room for mistakes and there’s no room for making the memories that come so often with mistakes. It may be one that comes from outside sources or it may be the ideals that have crept into your life over the years. From bosses and workplaces or from university or even comments from friends and family. Sometimes they build and build and instead of that pressure propelling you into something amazing, you stall (just like that crappy manual that you learnt to drive in) and it stops being fun.
So how do you go about taking the pressure off? You do something different or you go back to basics and remember why you started in the first place. You find that bit you loved the most and you focus on that. You write yourself little notes that remind you that you have to make mistakes to learn and move forward. That life is much more like a dance or an obstacle course than it is a sprint to the finish. You have to stop moving the goal posts so fast that you never feel like you have reached a goal. (Does anyone else get caught in this trap?)
For me, loving my life is something I need to learn to do. To not just love the memories of 5 years ago but to remember to enjoy things right now. When I set this theme (Love Your Life) I knew that it would challenge me to do as I say and break some habits. It’s hard because I still feel like I’m in transition, like I’m not where I want to be, but I can see it on the horizon. That’s the reason I started this blog though. To make the life I love and to find ways to embrace imperfection and the now.
It seems so much easier said that done. But I think the real way to love your life is to see the bits you cherish in the tiny moments. In the sunrise after a run you really didn’t want to get out of bed for. In the flower that’s blooming in your back yard. In the blue skies and the cool breeze the day after the cool change comes through. In the delighted face of someone who is happy to see you. Even in sending that email or application that you’ve been scared to, but finally did. It’s the little high fives and toddler smiles as much as the public recognition for your great work.
Sometimes the most awesome things aren’t shouted from the rooftops. They don’t come with streamers and a parade (though we’d love it if they did). They may appear for just a moment in time and are captured in a memories forever more. Even if they only mean something to you. They are the teeny tiny moments that all stick together to make a life you love. And I think there’s something really awesome in that.
Do you feel that pressure for things to be picture perfect, first time, every time? How do you deal? Tell me in the comments.